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Brock Landers
03-29-2018, 07:16 AM
The passing of recent draconian bills has led to the speculation and even hysteria(much of it understandable) over the future of adult sites and the future of SouthernGFE.

As it stands today, SouthernGFE will more than likely shut down at some point in April or June.

But this decision was NOT made as a response to the recent bills passing. This was a decision that was made about this time last year, and had been contemplated for at least the last three years. We were going to shut down the site last year, but decided to extend it another year.

Anyone familiar with the site will know that we are a FREE site and funding is done through affiliate links and sales. We could have implemented a simple pay system or a tiered membership program, but that's not something that we ever wanted to do. The site is and always has been about safety and giving ladies an advertising alternative so that they didn't have to fully rely on other websites using predatory tactics and manipulation. It wasn't about making a profit off the ladies, because we never felt that staying safe should come with a price tag. As long as we could make enough through affiliate sales to keep the site up, then that was good enough to keep it going.

As to why the decision was made to shut down the site, all I can say is that it was part time constraint issue, part refocusing of priorities, and partly a response to the influx of self-righteous, cantankerous cunts in this so-called industry.

In short, there are just too many rotten horrible women calling themselves escorts now. The good girls are maligned and driven away by the hordes of skank whores who do nothing and know nothing but to create animosity. Apathy set in at some point. I can deal with the malicious website owners and the "hobbyist" douchebags who prey on the women—addressing them and weeding them out is why the site was established in the first place. But why deal with it when the ladies become every bit as bad as the guys? Hell, they're probably worse nowadays. Much worse!

More clarification will come at a later time. I'll be more than happy to answer any questions in the meantime.

Mercedesfields
03-31-2018, 05:12 PM
I just found this site and wanted to advertise! It sounds like you tried to do a good thing so that is appreciated! Things are changing indeed

Abby
04-07-2018, 05:11 PM
Well dang guess I'm to late

karmel24
04-08-2018, 02:43 PM
Even though this site wasn't popular in my area, I still loved knowing that it was created by a successful, caring and driven provider . It seems that during the past few years every site started by a provider end up shutting down and that sucks to have to rely on sites created by men. I wish that it wasn't shutting down, I just got back to touring and was making this site a to go for advertising.... So sad

Noelle
04-08-2018, 10:20 PM
This makes me very sad

KhandiceBliss
04-09-2018, 11:36 AM
I am really sorry to hear this site is shutting down. It was a nice place where everyone's opinion, even if it were opposite, was respected. Where do we go from here. It is so crazy in this industry now chaos all around us. I hope there is a way we can keep this site open. I am certainly will to contribute to that. Please let us know if this is an option.

AlexisSweet69
04-11-2018, 12:49 AM
This is So Sad! :(

AmberNite
04-13-2018, 05:38 AM
I would have to totally agree with the brock, when I first started doing this , it was a totally different ball game . It use to be fun and enjoyable. But now it a bunch of bullshit, some guys are so disrespectful rude and just plain mean and I could imagine some of the women also. I love what I do or at least I use too. But the bullshit that come along with this is sometimes not worth it. We shouldn't have to treat our dates like a business deal however those that want to be stupid and try and give us counterfeit bills, or make an appointment and not show up or call, or when we don't offer what your looking for you call us bad nasty names. I miss how it use to be . Im not saying the women dont do these things . I can only speak from experience. Its actually really sad . the world we live in is really sad. Hopefully we can all come together help change things for the good. One day

Stay Safe and have fun

Amber Nite

Brock Landers
04-13-2018, 09:51 AM
Instead of just taking the entire site down, I thought about leaving up a small portion of it to use as more of a Resource center where ladies can find news, info and links to groups, orgs and individuals who are actively fighting this scourge of a law. There are a handful of sites out there and a handful of individuals who are working overtime to help ladies cope with this attack against livelihood. I'm sure another one wouldn't hurt, even if it is to a much smaller degree.

Yes, I know that's not really helping the ladies who are now faced with little or even no income, and the destitution, violence and coercion that will result from a heinous law that will do the exact opposite of its stated intent. But it could at least provide some kind of rallying point and an organizational tool so that everyone is on the right page and working together toward a coherent message and strategy—think along the lines of synergy.

Truth be told, if it weren't for the authoritarians passing their draconian laws and forcing other websites to shut down, I could have taken this site down and most people wouldn't have noticed or even cared. I am still trying to figure out how to take the site down—which was already planned to happen—without further harming ladies who have already been harmed enough.





https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O0YxeTjFn70

AmberNite
04-13-2018, 03:04 PM
thank you

veronicaatl
04-19-2018, 04:25 AM
I have been almost afraid to look. :( I hope it stays up, but I know exactly why the decision was made. Whatever the decision, I Love the site! Always have, always will! <3
Love,
V

KynsleyMorgan
04-21-2018, 10:23 AM
could you guys just sell it, so the women still have a place to go?
So many are crumbling, and so many ladies out there still do not know where to go...

Brock Landers
04-21-2018, 01:38 PM
could you guys just sell it, so the women still have a place to go?
So many are crumbling, and so many ladies out there still do not know where to go...
I'm still not sure what I'm going to do with the site. I haven't updated the site software in over 4 years, and it has been badly in need of the updates for at least the last 2 years. It got to the point where I would have rather put up a new and improved site on another domain and just redirected SGFE traffic to the new domain.

Hopefully I can figure something out.

HsvChelsea
04-22-2018, 08:42 AM
How will we be notified when you switch to the new domain?

Klarius1
04-23-2018, 12:28 AM
Thank you for what you have done. We are just another community of like minded people. The intent was to stop underage and female and underage sex trafficking, pedophiles, etc. That all when behind VPN's and into the dark web shortly after the bill started to get teeth. Sadly the authorities ability to find and stop that vanished off their radar screen FAST. Now that is behind vaults they can not see, prosecute or stop so they did the worst offenders a head start on hiding. The reset of us consenting adults that harm nobody and enjoy the worlds oldest profession will be following into the untraceable new world. Looks good on the news but total backfire in real life.

Exithere
04-30-2018, 10:23 AM
I'm still not sure what I'm going to do with the site. I haven't updated the site software in over 4 years, and it has been badly in need of the updates for at least the last 2 years. It got to the point where I would have rather put up a new and improved site on another domain and just redirected SGFE traffic to the new domain.

Hopefully I can figure something out.

Hi New member here, but I have been active on other forums for years and have even spent a lot time as a moderator out in the RW. I see two problems here. The first being the need to update, being somewhat familiar with vbulletin, yes, if you are to continue the upgrade is imperative. I would first check with the developer to see if you can upgrade you current version or if it is so out of date that it is no longer possible.

Secondly, shutting it down or not, I have read several posts about people not wanting to shut it down, I would support that idea as well. The recent shutdown of several major websites have left both the hobbiest and provider searching for answers on how to be able to connect and to mitigate as much as possible the risks involved. I have not read the recent legislation but I would think that there probably is a need to change how and what is posted in order to stay on the right side of the law in order to continue proving a venue to communicate.

One website that I am aware of has moved from .com to .ch and gone offshore.

If I can help in some way LMK.

Ahyana James
05-03-2018, 07:40 AM
I just found this site....obviously too late

Kimmie Kissess
05-09-2018, 07:07 AM
I think u hit everything right on the nose.
said it perfectly !!
This industry has been brought to shame. The clients don’t care about the providers anymore like they used to. All they want to do now is bounce around from girl to girl. Back in the day the guys actually helped u out and cared. Then u have these “regular” girls coming into the business doing a lot for nothing charging extremely cheap prices and providing less than quality experiences.
I never never in my life experienced such rude and trashy clients ever in my life until these past few years..
definately is not worth it...
maybe now we can get back to how it was once everything is shut down and these guys don’t have anywhere to go either.
Get these regular girls who are not providers/ entertainers, but merely thots trying to make my money for club weekends or boyfriends that they need to take care of.

Brock Landers
05-16-2018, 08:49 AM
Chances are still about 99% that I will be retiring SouthernGFE in June of this year. In its current configuration, I just don't have the desire to implement the necessary upgrades and modifications to keep it a modern and highly functional tool for ladies. I have the technical skills to make it happen, just not the passion(or time) to do it and keep it running smoothly 24/7. And I certainly don't have a desire to throw up something else from scratch.

But instead of just scraping the site and shutting down everything, I thought about using it to spotlight many of the stalkers, bullies, predators, and other bad elements that ladies have to deal with. Not really a screening site or a detailed blacklist or anything like that. More like a very simple showcase of the worst of the worst in the escorting world, with an emphasis on very simple. There are a lot of people—men and women—floating around who have a long history of using lies and distortion to attack women, stalk them, out them, berate them and their followers, and in the process of all that, they destroy any semblance of real community.

There will always be friction and conflicts that arise from all the egos contained in such a small space of the Internet—a space that is already highly stigmatized and afforded very little room for error in the eyes of the general public. All it takes is a small group of predators to sow that animosity and throw off the balance of a community. In most cases the people guilty of sowing the most animosity are the people who see themselves as the gatekeepers of an entire community and feel like they've been anointed to dictate the views and actions of other people.

But it doesn't have to be the den of vitriol and animosity that it has become. If you can isolate and weed out the obvious bad seeds, it makes it a little harder for them to spread their sickness to the greater community.

Blaze
05-16-2018, 03:15 PM
And I just reset my password lol. Been semi UTR for the last few years, not this. The hobby is just not the same. Maybe from all the disconnect, providers and hobbyists alike will become more ,, nah it never happen...

Sorry to see you go even though I haven't been here.

Sophia.Cream
05-20-2018, 03:47 AM
I guess there are those who spoil it for everyone 😔

LilyLovelessSATX
05-24-2018, 12:54 AM
I truly hope that the site stays up in some form. I just recently found it.
Some sites are relaunching this summer. I for one truly still try to find the beauty in what I do, as well as support other ladies instead of tear them down and create animosity needlessly.
It really is much different now than when I stepped foot in the industry over a decade ago...

Symone777
06-21-2018, 02:06 PM
I pray you will reconsider your decision, though I respect that you have an individual choice based on your own life what to do.

Since backpage and TER went down, its a struggle to keep the bills paid.

I have 5 children. 2 in college, one in high school, and 2 in elementary.

I began doing this a year ago so I can give them a better life and a better future.

Now my income has been cut to 1/3 of what it used to be when I constantly had calls coming in.

What can we do?

And if you are shutting down, do you know of any reputable sites you could refer us to? Do that we can still run successful businesses safely?

HsvChelsea
06-21-2018, 02:11 PM
There are a few that I use here in Huntsville Alabama that I am sure are available in your areas as well. Just not sure if the mods will allow me to mention them at this time for safety reasons. Mods... please let me know if I can name them asap before you shut down.

Be safe.... Chelsea

MeganLove
06-22-2018, 07:09 AM
We are keeping the site up for now. It's tough letting go of this site, I've had it for over 13 years. And yes Chelsea, please post your suggestions, we are fine with that.

:grouphug:

HsvChelsea
06-22-2018, 07:57 AM
Thank you... I just wanter to make sure, as some sites don't appreciate sharing other sites.

I use these site... and they are working quite well for me and have been using them for a long long time.

USASG - http://www.usasexguide.nl/forum/forum.php

This site has already made their move to over seas and it safe. Ladies you can sign up here first and become a member. BUT!!!! you can only read the forums... DO NOT POST any advertising here they will boot you quick. Once you are a member you can start advertising at this link... Just search for your state and city to advertise. I read the men's forums al the time to see what is going on.

http://www.usaadultclassifieds.nl/classifieds/

Then there is Skip The Games - It is free

http://www.usaadultclassifieds.nl/classifieds/

This is a new one... been very good for me

https://switter.at/about - Easy sign up.... play around with it you will find it a wonderful way to meet guys.

I will post a couple more here shortly after I find out their fate.

Hope this will help you... Remember to screen and be safe.

Chelsea

HsvChelsea
06-23-2018, 07:30 AM
I forgot about this one yesterday when posted links....

https://www.escort-galleries.com/ - It is free to post and create a profile... I get wonderful responses there and have met a few very gracious men.

Brock Landers
06-23-2018, 07:39 AM
I'm not sure how much longer we'll keep the site up. Regardless of if/when the site is shut down, I thought about leaving up a small section on the Directory where you'd be able to see listings of relevant websites where you can still advertise, screen, network, etc. You'd be able to leave ratings and reviews of your experiences with those sites. That would make it a lot easier for ladies to quickly find reputable sites and figure out if that specific platform would work for them.

I know that's not the best outcome, but it could help in some small way.

Adult Toys (https://www.seedandspark.com/user/brock-landers)

HsvChelsea
07-13-2018, 06:44 AM
That is also known as Switter / Mastadon. Just getting started on that site.

Brock Landers
07-13-2018, 06:48 AM
thanks... one of the new networks is
This wasn't an open invitation to spam this website.

HsvChelsea
07-13-2018, 06:55 AM
Actually after signing up it took me straight to Mastodon and I have an acount there. I didn't see anything in reference to vipgirlfriend. Kind of confused me.

HsvChelsea
07-13-2018, 07:00 AM
I will look at it again... thank you